Can we forgive ourselves if we haven’t forgiven another? Can we forgive another if we haven’t forgiven ourselves? On Saturday, February 9, we will explore those questions through the Eight Pillars of Joy—principles developed by Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama—and a personal story. You will come away with a method to help mitigate strong emotions and support forgiveness—in both directions.
As we evolve in recovery, there are opportunities for Step 6 (“Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character”) and Step 7 (“Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings”) to take on new and deeper meaning.
Through Step work, and the practice of Centering Prayer, we are walked through a healing process that illuminates things about ourselves that were once hidden. I have also found the “3 A’s” of Al-Anon—awareness, acceptance, and action—really helpful in this process
On Saturday I’ll talk about the difference being willing myself better (as an act of ego-will) and yielding so that I allow grace to wake me up.
I’m looking forward to being with you on February 9!
I have struggled with self-esteem, but I have come to see and accept the fact that self-compassion is far more important. (To put self-compassion first is to put the horse in front of the cart.)
Self-compassion, as expressed through my Centering Prayer practice, has helped me to know Whose I am, which has changed everything. On January 19 I’ll discuss what self-compassion is and why it means so much to me. Join me!
When we work Steps 4 and 5, the point of the inventory and the admissions to God, ourselves, and another human being is to pinpoint the exact nature of our wrongs. What is that exact nature—in other words, what is a character defect? Is it a sin, a mistake, a psychological maladjustment?
It’s confusing, but we don’t need to be confused. Our literature is clear on the point, and in my experience, Centering and Welcoming Prayer both address that “exact nature”—exactly.
Join me on January 19 to consider and discuss this vital, and compassionate, understanding of character defects.
When we get together on Saturday, December 8, I’ll invite us to explore the wording of Step Three, and then tell you a bit about how my understanding of the Third Step prayer has evolved over the years.
To close, we’ll “listen with the ear of the heart” to the prayer, using the method of lectio divina, in which we slowly and prayerfully experience its words.
One of the final invitations in the first 164 pages of the Big Book is to “abandon yourself to God as you understand God.” Centering prayer is a fulfillment of this exhortation that allows the mysterious and magical forces of grace to heal us.
Where are you these days with the Big Book’s suggestion? And what does abandon yourself mean to those of us who, in various ways, have experienced abandonment? I look forward to gathering with you on December 8, when we’ll explore these ideas.
In Step 3, we made that decision to turn our will and our life over to the care of God as we understand God. This can be painful.
But the pain I suffer is not actually in turning my life and will over to the God of my understanding.
My pain is in my resistance to turning my life and will over to the God of my understanding.
Join us on Saturday, November 10, when I’ll say more about this distinction!
Step Two says: “We came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.” On Saturday, November 10, I’ll describe how I came to discover and trust the Divine Healer within. Join me.
“The principle that we shall find no enduring strength until we first admit complete defeat is the main taproot from which our whole society has sprung and flowered.” –Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions
I would like to explore this redemptive truth—admission of complete failure on the basis of our own resources—and how essential it is to the practice of Centering Prayer.
I look forward to seeing you on October 20.
In working Step 11, which is all about trying to improve my conscious contact with my higher power, asking myself certain important questions can help.
What's my level of awareness of God's presence and action in my life? High, midrange, pretty low?
Where do I put most of my focus and energy? Getting things, doing things, owning things—or somewhere higher and deeper?
What’s my level of inner awareness—that is, how conscious am I of what's going on inside me? Is there anxiety, resentment, judgmentalism, fear?
Come join us on May 12, when I’ll explore these questions with you.